• val posted an update 5 years, 5 months ago

    I haven’t kept up with any forums or blogs on this site for sometime now. You see my son was diagnosed with a Pnet brain tumor 14 months ago. The past year has been just a horror story for myself and my husband, my daughter, and mostly his wife. I think I have cried every days since his diagnosis and I will cry forever, for last Friday God…[Read more]

    • rick replied 5 years, 5 months ago · ·

      So very sorry for your loss Val. There is sometimes so much pain and sorrow that you don’t know how you can ever bear it. My usual response to the question of how do you cope with the loss is ” I would rather have loved and lost than never to have loved at all”. But sometimes that just sounds like words that ring hollow. I wish you the blessing…[Read more]

  • val posted on the forum topic Pets and our journey in the group Group logo of SurvivorsSurvivors: 5 years, 7 months ago

    Healing, both physically and mentally, especially with a cancer diagnosis, is no easy thing to do. I think some people can handle it better than others. In my case, it seemed like such a dark time in my life, except for family and friends who supported and cared for me. And then there’s “Bella”. Bella [...]

  • val posted on the forum topic What do I do with all this anger? in the group Group logo of SurvivorsSurvivors: 5 years, 9 months ago

    I can appreciate something like this happening when faced with more and more problems. It can be a grueling experience, once that makes the beast come out very easily. You keep asking more and more questions, keep on becoming more and more scared, you watch everything the cancer patient does, walk, talk, eat, sleep. It [...]

  • val posted on the forum topic Stress? in the group Group logo of Philosophy and cancer survivorshipPhilosophy and cancer survivorship: 5 years, 12 months ago

    Well, I’ve got to say, I do believe I can beat anybody with this topic!! Firstly, I know I’ve lived with stress all my life. Stress has been hanging onto me since my early 20′s. After getting married, my husband was very sickly for years. I lived with my friend stress with his illnesses, his [...]

  • val posted on the forum topic Names in the group Group logo of SurvivorsSurvivors: 6 years, 3 months ago

    Do you REALLY want to know what I called it?

  • val posted an update in the group Group logo of The Newly DiagnosedThe Newly Diagnosed: 6 years, 3 months ago

    My diagnosis is now over 1 year old. It seems that the time has gone by so fast. Last year at this time, I was undergoing chemo, having lost my hair, feeling sick, tired, helpless, scared. But this is now and that was then. I remember going to chemo and sitting there thinking – this fluid is going to kill anything in my body that shouldn’t be…[Read more]

  • On my way to mass on Easter Sunday morning, I said to the Lord – I love this day, this time of year. I think it brings me and a lot of other people closer to God because of the representation of the events of holy week. Seems ironic for this time to be a [...]

  • When you have come to the edge Of all you know, And are about to drop into the darkness Of the unknown, Faith is Knowing one of two things will happen: There will be something solid to stand on or you will be taught to fly” For the last 2 weeks, the darkness and fears [...]

  • val posted on the forum topic Caregivers dilemma in the group Group logo of CaregiversCaregivers: 6 years, 7 months ago

    I agree that sometimes the caregiver is in a precarious situation. They, too, in a way have all the symptoms, emotions, resentments that the person they are taking care of have. As a caregiver to my husband years ago and still to the present day (we’ve gone through 3 intestinal surgeries with him and an [...]

    • rick replied 6 years, 7 months ago · ·

      So beautifully said Val. I always love your insight. My thoughts and prayers are ith you as you help your mom through a very difficult time. Rick

  • val posted on the forum topic Regaining Independence in the group Group logo of SurvivorsSurvivors: 6 years, 8 months ago

    Independence – being free – a novel idea, but one that maybe can’t be, as defined, throughout a lifetime. We live in a free country, are surrounded by free speech, free ideas, almost free everything (except for those our government says we have for free, but really don’t). Our freedom is a God-given right which [...]

  • val posted on the forum topic Expectations of the caregiver in the group Group logo of SurvivorsSurvivors: 6 years, 9 months ago

    I’v assumed both roles in my lifetime. When my husband was first diagnosed with Crohn’s Disease (way back after we were married with 1 child) and when I was diagnosed with endometrial cancer. In reality, I think I did a better job as the survivor. The caregiver’s job is endless – day in, day out [...]

  • val posted on the forum topic When hope fades… in the group Group logo of SurvivorsSurvivors: 6 years, 9 months ago

    It’s kind of hard to start this reply. My head is reeling with all the thoughts swirling around from the first time being told that I had a very rare cancer, through treatments, doctor appts., traveling back and forth to the hospital almost every 3 weeks for something or other, the sick feeling in the [...]

    • rick replied 6 years, 9 months ago · ·

      Thanks for sharing this beautiful insight. It means so much coming from someone who went through it. Thanks for all that you share wth us. Your wisdom is truly a gift.

  • val posted on the forum topic New Years Resolutions in the group Group logo of SurvivorsSurvivors: 6 years, 9 months ago

    During the past year, I’ve discovered that I really haven’t been paying the attention I should be pa ying to my family. It’s very easy to get encapsulated in a job, going out with friends, shopping, you know the everyday things that we all do – sometimes to the extreme. I was diagnosed in March [...]

  • val posted on the forum topic Thanksgiving in the group Group logo of SurvivorsSurvivors: 6 years, 11 months ago

    I am thankful for my husband, children, grandchild, parents, sisters, nieces, nephews, friends, doctors, nurses, technicians, new eyebrows, eyelashes, HAIR, and — GOD — for this Thanksgiving day. I wish everyone a very happy Thanksgiving.

  • val posted on the forum topic Cancer Sucks… in the group Group logo of SurvivorsSurvivors: 7 years ago

    Dear Cancer: You were a totally unexpected guest. One whom I prayed would never enter my life. You changed me from a person who was always very healthy, on the go, ready to help people, working my tail off individual, into a frail, scared, empty, sick, depressed person. I was one to never require a [...]

  • val posted an update in the group Group logo of SurvivorsSurvivors: 7 years ago

    My daughter is having her first baby – our first grandchild. Well, the little stinker wouldn’t move upside down for anything – for the past month he’s been breech. Yesterday, she had an inversion procedure (hope I’m spelling that right) done. She was admitted, given IV and attached to an ultrasound machine. Her obgyn and one of his…[Read more]

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